Friday, May 24, 2013

semester 1 of year 2

Randomly took this photo, so difficult to asked Maymay came and took together.
Now back to college again, like before went to college 5 days a week!
6 subjects need to go.

The second week of the reopen class only went to college.
The reason due to i have to work on that first week at Plaza Razak there (Bangladesh world).
 Suddenly so miss the working time when i start going to class.
Maybe it is so free because the class is just started. Feel nothing to do.
After few weeks will damn f***ing busy because of assignment!
Cause when i'm working, it looks so busy everyday.
Feel you have something to do everyday. No feel you are wasting your time.

No regret went to Mydin.
Although there are so many bangladesh, but if you willing to talk with them.
They are very friendly also.
I also knew some friends from there. Promoter auntie also very friendly.
Promoter auntie saw me so boring over there because no have any young promoter friend like me can chat with. They told me will have a lot of young promoters come on weekend.
So, make me so expected the coming weekend. At least has peer friends can chatting with.
There was really so many young promoters came to work on the weekend.
They work every weekend actually. So next time can go visit them. :)

I also knew some bangladesh friends and one dumb and deaf women.
Impressed me the most is that dumb and deaf women.
She is a Indian and married. She has share with me about her story.
Maybe is because my parent, so make me feel wanna make friend with her.
Actually i din't know her name, forget to ask.
She say she had no many friend since she was young until now.
Her husband also is introduced through her family and straight marry with her.
Saw her husband one day when his husband came to visit her.
Just wish she can live happy and without any trouble.
She knew less of words, she din't went to dumb and deaf school before.
 So her sign language and knowledge is learn from her few friends.
Like me, half a bucket of water! On sign language.
But i'm more lucky than her because i still have other language can express. But she can't.
So make me feel wanna to help her. Help her to translate.
Sometime she sharing her things, actually can imaging how her past.
Got asked her why don't make some friend when she young.
She told me better be alone, the reason due to maybe hard to express her feeling.
Maybe her friends is all can speak and normal person.
Got communication problem.

Sometime i will felt that, that's got a line between dumb and deaf world and our world.
Maybe affected by my mom, she always share about her friend's things.
Mostly is bad things. Look no have good kind of dumb and deaf friend. All look like scheming person.
My parent still having the tradition thinking.
Maybe less contract with something new or knowledge.
And they are very stubborn person. They persist it is right. Then it is right.
It's hard to change their minds!

At Mydin, i also saw some of the workers got leg problem.
Like when they walk will 一拐一拐, some is hand problem.
I'm so glad that Mydin still willing to employ them.
 HAHA! This photo took at lecture when he keep looking on his phone.
Actually is keep looking on him.
KEEP looking! (Ming Ee, HIAO)
Is that so comfortable sleep on sofa? =/
 Star trek super NICE! I'm fall in love with the main character.
Like his spirit and responsible.
He willing to sacrifice to save his partner and the members of the ship.
So creative of this photographer!
Talking about he bring his girl to the whole world trip and took those photos.
Feel so romantic, i want to try it with my future boyfriend. XD

Went to IPC shopping center to spend my One Malaysia book voucher with Wilson.
Have a nice day with him. =)




Last Wednesday WanJun ask me to bring her home after the English class because she need to take a shower.
She felt so sticky the reason due to she had workshop on afternoon. 
She suggested me to put on some sun block lotion next time.
It is so hot to us to doing something like estimate the hill angle under the sun.
Still start on afternoon 12pm.

Then we took some photos.
This is the first photo of us!


 Yesterday went gym with Karmun.
Thinking wanna go Johor next week or not?

My far relative marry, a lot of relatives also invited by them and they will going too, i think.
Already one week din't went to college. Am i still wanna skip some class go to this wedding dinner?
Hmmm? Still thinking of it.

Friday, May 17, 2013

How foreign teach their child

A story saw from facebook, just copy and paste to here =)
一個中國婆婆跟我說:「我的兒子去美國留學,畢業後定居美國。
還給我找了個洋媳婦Susan。
如今,小孫子Toby已經3歲了。
今年夏天,兒子為我申請了探親簽證。
在美國待了三個月,洋媳婦Susan教育孩子的方法,
令我這個中國婆婆大開眼界。」


@照顧自己

每天早上,Toby醒來後,
Susan把早餐往餐桌上一放,就自顧自地忙去了。

Toby會自己爬上凳子,喝牛奶,吃麵包片。
吃飽後,他回自己的房間,
在衣櫃裏找衣服、鞋子,再自己穿上。

畢竟Toby只有3歲,還搞不清楚襪子的正反面,
分不清鞋子的左右腳。
有一次Toby又把褲子穿反了,我趕緊上前想幫他換,
卻被Susan制止了。
她說,如果他覺得不舒服,會自己脫下來,重新穿好;
如果他沒覺得有什麼不舒服,那就隨他的便。

那一整天,Toby反穿著褲子跑來跑去,Susan像沒看見一樣。

又一次,Toby出去和鄰居家的小朋友玩,
沒多大會就氣喘吁吁地跑回家,
對Susan說:「媽媽,Lily說我的褲子穿反了,真的嗎?」
Lily是鄰居家的小姑娘,今年5歲。

Susan笑著說:「是的,你要不要換回來?」
Toby點點頭,自己脫下褲子,仔細看了看,重新穿上了。
從那以後,Toby再也沒穿反過褲子。

我不禁想起,我的外孫女五六歲時不會用筷子,
上小學時不會繫鞋帶。
如今在讀初中要寄宿的她,每個週末都要帶回家一大堆髒衣服呢。

@不吃飯就餓著

一天中午,Toby鬧情緒,不肯吃飯。
Susan說了他幾句,憤怒地小Toby一把將盤子推到了地上,
盤子裏的食物灑了一地。

Susan看著Toby,認真地說:「看來你確實不想吃飯!
記住,從現在到明天早上,你什麼都不能吃。」
Toby點點頭,堅定地回答:「Yes!」
我在心裏暗笑,這母子倆,還都挺倔!

下午,Susan和我商量,晚上由我做中國菜。
我心領神會,Toby特別愛吃中國菜,
一定是Susan覺得Toby中午沒好好吃飯,
想讓他晚上多吃點兒。

那天晚上我施展廚藝,
做了Toby最愛吃的糖醋裏脊、油悶大蝦,
還用義大利麵做了中國式的涼麵。

Toby最喜歡吃那種涼麵,小小的人可以吃滿滿一大盤。

開始吃晚飯了,Toby歡天喜地地爬上凳子。
Susan卻走過來,拿走了他的盤子和刀叉,
說:「我們已經約好了,今天你不能吃飯,你自己也答應了的。」


Toby看著面容嚴肅的媽媽,
“哇”地一聲在哭起來,
邊哭邊說:「媽媽,我餓,我要吃飯。」
「不行,說過的話要算數。」Susan毫不心軟。

我心疼了,想替Toby求情,說點好話,卻見兒子對我使眼色。
想起我剛到美國時,兒子就跟我說,在美國,父母教育孩子時,
別人千萬不要插手,即使是長輩也不例外。
無奈,我只好保持沉默。

那頓飯,從始至終,可憐的小Toby一直坐在玩具車裏,眼巴巴地看著我們三個大人狼吞虎嚥。
我這才明白Susan讓我做中餐的真正用意。

我相信,下一次,Toby想發脾氣扔飯碗時,
一定會想起自己餓著肚子看爸爸媽媽和奶奶享用美食的經歷。
餓著肚子的滋味不好受,
況且還是面對自己最喜愛的食物。

臨睡前,我和Susan一起去向Toby道晚安。

Toby小心翼翼地問:「媽媽,我很餓,現在我能吃中國麵嗎?」
Susan微笑著搖搖頭,堅決地說:「不!」
Toby歎了口氣,又問:「那等我睡完覺睜開眼睛時,可以吃嗎?」
「當然可以。」Susan溫柔地回答。
Toby甜甜地笑了。

大部分情況下,Toby吃飯都很積極,
他不想因為“罷吃”而錯過食物,再受餓肚子的苦。

每當看到Toby埋頭大口大口地吃飯,
嘴上臉上粘的都是食物時,我就想起外孫女。

她像Toby這麼大時,為了哄她吃飯,
幾個大人端著飯碗跟在她屁股後面跑,
她還不買賬,還要談條件:
吃完這碗買一個玩具,再吃一碗買一個玩具……


@以其人之道,還治其人之身

有一天,我們帶Toby去公園玩。
很快,Toby就和兩個女孩兒玩起了廚房遊戲。
塑膠小鍋、小鏟子、小盤子、小碗擺了一地。

忽然,淘氣的Toby拿起小鍋,
使勁在一個女孩兒頭上敲了一下,
女孩兒愣了一下,放聲大哭。
另一個女孩兒年紀更小一些,
見些情形,也被嚇得大哭起來。
大概Toby沒想到會有這麼嚴重的後果,站在一旁,愣住了。

Susan走上前,開清了事情的來龍去脈後,
她一聲不吭,拿起小鍋,使勁敲到Toby的頭上,
Toby沒防備,一下子跌坐在草地上,哇哇大哭起來。
Susan問Toby:「疼嗎?下次還這樣嗎?”
Toby一邊哭,一邊拼命搖頭。
我相信他以後再也不會這麼做了。

@建立社交能力

Toby的舅舅送了他一輛淺藍色的小自行車,
Toby非常喜歡,當成寶貝,不許別人碰。
鄰居小姑娘Lily是Toby的好朋友,
央求Toby好幾次,要騎他的小車,Toby都沒答應。

一次,幾個孩子一起玩時,
Lily趁Toby不注意,偷偷騎上小車,揚長而去。
Toby發現後,氣憤地跑來向Susan告狀。

Susan正和幾個孩子的母親一起聊天喝咖啡,
便微笑著說:「你們的事情自己解決,媽媽可管不了。」
Toby無奈地走了。

過了一小會兒,Lily騎著小車回來了。
托比看到Lily,一把將她推倒在地,搶過了小車。
Lily坐在地上大哭起來。
Susan抱起Lily,安撫了她一會兒。
很快,Lily就和別的小朋友興高采烈地玩了起來。

Toby自己騎了會車,覺得有些無聊,
看到那幾個孩子玩得那麼高興,
他想加入,又覺得有些不好意思。
他蹭到Susan身邊,嘟囔道:「媽媽,我想跟Lily他們一起玩。」

Susan不動聲色地說:「那你自己去找他們啦!」

「媽媽,你陪我一起去。」Toby懇求道。

「那可不行,剛才是你把Lily弄哭的,
現在你又想和大家玩,就得自己去解決問題。」

Toby騎著小車慢慢靠近Lily,快到她身邊時,又掉頭回來。
來回好幾次,不知道從什麼時候開始,
Toby和Lily又笑顏逐開,鬧成了一團。


@管教孩子是父母的事

Susan的父母住在加利福尼亞州,
聽說我來了,兩人開車來探望我們。
家裏來了客人,Toby很興奮,跑上跑下地亂竄。

他把玩沙子用的小桶裝滿了水,提著小桶在屋裏四處轉悠。
Susan警告了她好幾次,不要把水灑到地板上,Toby置若罔聞。

最後,Toby還是把水桶弄倒了,水灑了一地。
興奮的小Toby不覺得自己做錯了事,
還得意地光著腳丫踩水玩,把褲子全弄濕了。

我連忙找出拖把準備拖地。
Susan從我手中搶過拖把交給托比,
對他說:「把地拖乾,把濕衣服脫下來,自己洗乾淨。」

Toby不願意,又哭又鬧。
蘇珊二話不說,直接把他拉到貯藏室,關了禁閉。
聽到Toby在裏面發出驚天動地的哭喊,我心疼壞了,
想進去把他抱出來。
Toby的外婆卻攔住我,說:「這是Susan的事。」

過了一會兒,Toby不哭了,他在貯藏室裏大聲喊:
「媽媽,我錯了。」

Susan站在門外,問:「那你知道該怎麼做了嗎?」
「我知道。」Susan打開門,
Toby從貯藏室走出來,臉上還掛著兩行淚珠。
他拿起有他兩個高的拖把吃力地把地上的水拖乾淨。
然後,他脫下褲子,拎在手上,
光著屁股走進洗手間,稀裏嘩啦地洗起衣服來。

Toby的外公外婆看著表情驚異的我,意味深長地笑了。
這件事讓我感觸頗深。
在很多中國家庭,父母管教孩子時,常常會引起“世界大戰”,
往往是外婆外公護,爺爺奶奶攔,夫妻吵架,雞飛狗跳。

後來,我和Toby的外公外婆聊天時,提到這件事,
Toby的外公說了一段話,讓我印象深刻。

他說,孩子是父母的孩子,首先要尊重父母對孩子的教育方式。
孩子雖然小,卻是天生的外交家,
當他看到家庭成員之間出現分歧時,他會很聰明地鑽空子。

這不僅對改善他的行為毫無益處,反而會導致問題越來越嚴重,
甚至帶來更多別的問題。
而且,家庭成員之間發生衝突,
不和諧的家庭氛圍會帶給孩子更多的不安全感,
對孩子的心理發展產生不利影響。

所以,無論是父輩與祖輩在教育孩子的問題上發生分歧,還是夫妻兩人的教育觀念有差異,都不能在孩子面前發生衝突。

Toby的外公外婆在家裏住了一周,準備回加利福尼亞了。
臨走前兩天,Toby的外公鄭重地問女兒:
「Toby想要一輛玩具挖掘機,我可以買給他嗎?」

Susan想想,說:「你們這次已經送給他一雙旱冰鞋作為禮物了,
到聖誕節時,再買玩具挖掘機當禮物送給他吧!」

我不知道Toby的外公是怎麼告訴小傢伙的,
後來我帶Toby去超市,他指著玩具挖掘機說:
「外公說,聖誕節時,給我買這個當禮物。」
語氣裏滿是欣喜和期待。

雖然Susan對Toby如此嚴格,Toby卻對媽媽愛得不得了。
他在外面玩時,會採集一些好看的小花或者他認為漂亮的葉子,
鄭重其事地送給媽媽;
別人送給他禮物,他會叫媽媽和他一起拆開;
有什麼好吃的,也總要留一半給媽媽。

想到很多中國孩子對父母的漠視與冷淡,
我不得不佩服我的洋媳婦。
在我看來,在教育孩子的問題上,
美國媽媽有很多值得中國媽媽學習的地方。

Sunday, May 5, 2013

End of third sem break

Din't take photo recently, so put it old photo. :) 
Sem break doing nothing.
Watching drama, sleeping, eating, and "half" helping my parent. XD
Try to find work before. But din't get any reply of them.
So give up!
I wanna try sampling. Feel it so simple and just give the food for customers try.
I sent few email for them, but no have one of them reply me.
How pity am i?
Wish i'm a tall pretty girl. Had seen some employ post before.
RM 300++ one day for car model or others. How high of the salary!
Why i'm not enough tall?

Lol, Genting plan cancel again =.=
Also because of some reason, can't fix up all the friends together so cancel again.
Just tell myself, "never mind, we still got a lot of time!" :)

Sometime, am i think too much?
Or some of the person also will think like that too?
I think, a lot of people also will think of some question like "How people think of me?", "Did they like me? or hate me?", "Did i somewhere not good? or something wrong?"
I believed most of the people will think these of question one day.

Sometime, i will very not have confidence to myself.
Felt i not did enough good.
Scare i did something then make people misunderstanding me and i don't know they misunderstand.

and a LOT! Just don't know how to say it out =/
Nobody knew me more than i do.
Just tell myself: Improve! Keep moving forward! Take action!
Just share some photo of my little sister.
Getting bigger than before. Wish she can learn as much as possible.
Sometimes she make me pressure because we less speak with her.
So she just knew some simple word. She do more body language.
Actually is sign language because she spend a lot of time with my mom.

Nowadays, my mom send her to kindergarten, hope she can speak more and join with same age friends.
Last time we went to watch G.I. Joe 2.
She slept in the cinema.

Had a lunch with my best friend--- PeiTing.
Long time din't saw her.
She now stop working, and decided to choose make up course.
I did something one day. Cause too boring!
I help my parent do some work.
First time complete a whole thing with myself.
Although just a simple repair car cushion, but it is first time for me. :)

Long time din't help my parent work since i was Form 3. I guess.
When i was at penang, i also have help my grandpa work too.
Just help to do something easy work because i was too young, don't know everything also.

Haha, this naughty sister slept at customer cushion. =.=
Suddenly feel i still have many things need to improve!
Got a lot of disadvantages!
Need to change some bad habit.
And i told to myself,
try to listen carefully what people going to tell you something.

Get a 5 days job with friend Pearly at Ampang Aeon Big, need to wear black pant and black shoe.
Borrow a black shoe from Jx, and she accompanied me go to KLCC bought the pant too.
After that, her bf came too and they went to movie.





 First day of the job!
Just like last time YES 4G job, need to stand whole day.
Luckily is only 9 hours, and has 1 hour break.
Freedom than last time.
Weekdays will have more sampling promoter, but 90% is auntie.
Those of aunties also very friendly, first auntie we knew is promote fitness one.
She is from Serdang. We will go to ask some food to eat every time.











The result of the third semester was out!
Luckily no failed. But need to get it better next time.
Need to work hard and hard and hard!!!  Really.
Wish to get scholarship in advanced diploma, so need to get a higher CGPA in diploma only can apply it.
Just try my best! :)
Going to bangladesh world soon. T.T
I'm going to work same NIVEA product, but is at different place.
Only one week.
Unluckily the place is at plaze rakyat, Mydin.
There are so many bangladesh now!
Just hope i will be safe. God bless me.

What should i do?

还以为小妹出生后,一切会变得更好
你们会为她着想,好好地相处工作,和气相处,平平静静的生活
每个人都很想有个完美的家庭,我也一样
我没抱怨自己的父母,也替他们骄傲
我从没嫌弃过你们的缺陷,也坦然接受,往好的方面想
有时看看其他有缺陷的人在路边讨钱,看似很可怜
有些其实是可以去找工作做的,尤其是有手有脚的人!

可是,妈妈您总是让我觉得有压力
也许身为孩子的我,应该帮你分解你的辛苦和苦恼
也许我做得不够,对不起
我的手语不够好,不能和你谈更深入的话题
而你通常都和我说的烦恼都是围绕着这几个问题里
“爸爸有外遇”,“爸爸很会花钱”,“最近节省点,不要乱用钱”
不是外遇,就是有关金钱问题
我爸我爸,他其实有没有想过以后的路啊?
他没想做一些打算吗?
谁都说不了我爸,他更本都听不进去

不知道为什么,我最不能忍耐的事是妈妈迟来接我放学或放工
中学时候,每次都是我最后一个才回家
有时真的忍不住想走回家,又怕她在半路来着了
在等她的过程,看着朋友一个一个地回家去
有时我真的有一个念头:多希望有人来把我抓走!
真的不知道为什么,那时我真的时常有这个想法

当然现在好点了,有了车牌,不需要再等
可能我是家中最不需要担心的那个吧
您们特别放心我

我是一个从小在父母常吵架的家庭里长大
我看过爸爸打我妈妈,而我妈妈还要死命抓着我爸爸脚不走的情况
对,我爸是很暴力
吵架时,我爸还真的很故意摔破家里的电视机,电话,电脑等
因为我妈最在意钱
打破了,又要花钱再买多新一个
我妈将在意钱,还不是因为我爸很会花钱
他没有管理钱的想法
如果真的遇到尽瓶口,我爸就会怪我妈了
我记得
我爸曾经还把我妈关在家外边,不给她进来,那时我妈还怀孕
还叫我和我妹不可以去开门给她进
当时真的是怕我爸,所以没去开门
结果,我妈中蚊症,孩子早产,孩子活了6天走了
我妈没事

因为我妈最担心的还是我爸有没有外遇
有时亲戚问,是不是我妈想太多了
叫我带她去看心理医生
当然,我妈说她没事,不去看医生
也是啦,因为曾经发生,弄到有阴影也说不定
我爸曾经有个女人,我见过
那女人其实样子还好,有家庭了,2或3个男的孩子,有老公
她还和我爸搞,结果最后有了
我最不能忍受的事,她还有脸来和我妈讨钱
说要打掉肚子的孩子

其实有时我还真希望
他们离婚,可能生活得更好
不知道是不是我妈很爱我爸?
死都不离开他
我试过叫我妈离,她不要
我爸也说过离婚这件事,可能只是气头上说,所以也没真的离到
如果离婚,我是跟定我妈,我妹就跟我爸

我妹啊,大的妹妹
不可能跟我妈吧,他们没一次真正的聊天
我妹总是故意气我妈妈,可能就是我妹对她妈的一种方式吧
什么事都不管
父母吵架,她不管的,可能看习惯了吧
每次读书回到家,就在自己房间,玩电话玩电脑
很少和我小妹说话
所以弄到我小妹说话有点慢,不怎么讲话
而我现在在我叔叔那边住
可能你们眼里,我是在逃避照顾我小妹
也能我真的是这样吧
我喜欢在我叔叔那边,因为那边很安静
什么烦恼都没有

我和我大妹的性格很不同,从小其实一直吵架的
我是被我公公顾大的,大妹从小就常和我妈一起
我都是觉得,因为我妈很宠我们
现在也很明显,我妈很宠我小妹!
我骂她,我妈就说她不懂嘛,长大就会懂得
有时我真的不知道我妈怎样想
也许我大妹就是这样被顾大的
我们想法都不同

可能因为我爸妈的缺陷,很少和外面接触
想法可能还很传统,和他们说,他们又很固执的
两夫妻都是这样,有时真不知道如何跟他们说
所以有时弄到我压力很大

觉得我有这个责任去照顾这个家
所以我不能乱来,这个家只能靠我
不可能去靠我亲戚吧

我以为他们生了小妹会更成熟点,懂事点,为我们孩子着想点
是有比以前好,好很多
也很少吵架了,爸很少打我妈了
可是我妈还是会怀疑,爸还是会花钱
记得有一次,生了我小妹后
他们有一次吵到很厉害,我爸叫我们3个关在房间不要出去
可是,怎么可能啊
你在房间听到声音,怎么可能假装听不见,一定会忍不住出去阻止他们
怎样阻止也阻止不了
大人的世界,小孩子管不了
我忍不住拉我小妹出去看他们,叫他们敢敢就在我小妹面前吵
那时我小妹吓到哭了
他们也看到小妹哭,所以静下来了
我不知道我这样做对不对,我只是要他们知道
有本事生她出来,就成熟点为她着想
我不想她像我们一样
从小就是看着爸爸妈妈吵架的画面长大

我爸是一个很会享受生活的人
对他朋友很好,常常请吃
每天出去餐厅吃
有时我妈煮些简单的食物,我爸也不吃
可能吃惯外面食物了吧
很少在家吃了,我妈也因为忙,也很少在家里煮了
曾经想过买间家,可以有个避风港嘛
可能背后经济不够,所以没买成
而且现在屋价一直起,以前希望着爸爸能买间家的希望
也慢慢地觉得这不可能实现的
靠谁? 我想就我自己吧
不可能靠我妹吧? 哈哈

能怎么办? 一步一步看了
自己的事自己知道就好
刚才一家人出去吃晚餐,妈妈就摆脸色
叫我们叫一些平时我们不会吃的东西,死都要叫
最后还是叫给她了
每次他们吵架时,她都会少理小的妹妹
我看不过的是,她真的很宠小妹,不会骂她
小妹也越来越离谱
我看不下去了,最后跟她吵了起来
我觉得自己没错,虽然心里有点怕,之前没试过决定跟她吵
我最后还是坚持的跟她吵了
我觉得她做得不对! 可是真的不知道要怎样劝她
跟她说什么,她都说是自己对
想帮他们解决,可是真的不懂怎样做
试了叫他们面对面谈,一个说坚持有,一个坚持说没有
两个又将固执
几十年了,现在还是发生将的情况
是我妈胡思乱想呢? 还是真的是我爸的问题?

有时我真的不想理了
我妈死都坚持她的想法,爸也一样
他们怎样才会改变啊?
我真的只希望有个和和睦睦的家